If you’ve been reading my blogs for awhile, then you know that my therapist is dope and SO necessary in my life!
Recently, she and I had a great session in which we discussed my struggles with procrastination, self-doubt, and self-sabotage.
This is something that we had been working on for some time, but I wanted to revisit the root of it.
I had certainly made a lot of progress over the past year or so, and this blog in and of itself is a testament to that.
However, I wanted to dig deeper and understand why I sometimes procrastinate and don’t maintain consistency in my progress.
I will delve into exactly what we discussed in a future blog post, however I have mentioned the gist of the incident that we discussed in the session in my first post on imposter syndrome and how it reared its ugly head during my intern year in residency.
Now, this experience is obviously something that is affecting me, given the fact that 9 years later I wrote a blog post about it and am still discussing it!
However, I had no idea the depths to which this negative encounter with a rude (and racist) attending had permeated my unconscious and was driving some of my self-sabotaging behaviors today.
I truly thought that I had gotten over this particular insult, but I had not fully.
I had absorbed the negative message of the encounter with this doctor. My therapist told me that this is because it happened during a very formative time in my career- my first few months of being a physician.
I was impressionable and at that point eager to please. The words that he spoke to me cut to my core.
I have been carrying them with me, deep in my unconscious mind.
I’ll tell you one thing: knowing that his words were still with me made me feel ill.
I needed to shake this loose. He does not deserve that much power over my life.
No one deserves that much power over my life.
I knew in that session that it would require some work to untangle my unconscious mind from his hurtful words, but I felt an incredible sense of urgency to make a change.
I needed a way to get this under control so that I can fully walk in my purpose.
I am a humble person, but I know that greatness is on the inside of me, because I am a child of God. Nothing and no one on this earth can take that away from me!
Ok, so my therapist (I told y’all she is DOPE!!!) gave me a suggestion that I have implemented. It has been extremely helpful in changing my behaviors.
Motivation is MOVEMENT-once you move and convince your mind that you are able to move, your thoughts will fall in line.
She thought that it might be helpful to have a visual representation of whether or not my actions are fulfilling my purpose or are playing into the negative mental model that I have created that fits into my imposter syndrome.
So, directly after leaving my appointment I went to my happy place- The Dollar Tree! (don’t judge me-the DT is LIFE!)
I purchased 2 jars and a package of decorative rocks.
I then labeled the jars as follows: Jar #1: Fulfilling my potential and my purpose; Jar #2: Not fulfilling my potential and my purpose.
At the end of each day I do a self- evaluation and place a rock in each jar. At the end of the week and month I hope to have more rocks in jar #1.
This. Changed. Everything.
I am not sure why, but there is something about having the jars on my shelf that really motivates me to stay on track and fulfill my goals for the day. (Plus, it’s so pretty!)
I tend to be internally motivated, meaning I like competing with myself.
If you wear an apple watch or activity tracker and MUST complete your steps for the day or you feel like a failure, then you are also likely internally motivated and this system could work for you!
Since implementing it, I have had bad days when I fall into my old trap of procrastination and self-sabotage, but I have noticed that there have been many more productive days in a given week than non-productive days.
This has been an absolute game changer for me!
I really love that this hack is simple, CHEAP (Dollar Tree for the win!) and effective.
What productivity tools or tricks have you implemented in your life? Do you think this one would work for you? Leave a comment below and let’s chat!
Peace and Love,