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The morning promise-keeping your first promise to yourself in the morning, and how that can jump start your entire day

The morning promise-keeping your first promise to yourself in the morning, and how that can jump start your entire day

Some might look at this title and think I am doing WAY too much. What’s this about a morning promise? What’s the big deal? IT’S JUST AN ALARM!!!

In our last blog post, we discussed how we often break the first promise that we make to ourselves in the morning. 

We tell ourselves that we are going to wake up at 5AM, 6AM, etc.

But when that alarm goes off…*SNOOZE*.

What’s the big deal?

Well, I’ve learned that that one little act of snoozing and not getting up when I say I will makes all the difference in the world.

Let’s put it like this: your brain was built to keep you safe. Safe from external threats, like lions and tigers and bears. (insert obligatory: Oh My!)

But also safe from internal threats as well. Your brain doesn’t want you to fail. 

If it knows that you will safely and confidently execute a task, it will reinforce positivity and you will do the task.

If your mind knows that you are not likely to do the task, or that the task will cause you to “fail”, your brain will put the kibosh on that expeditiously.

Your brain is trying to protect you. It doesn’t want you to feel discomfort. It wants you to be even-keeled and in a steady-state at all times. Doing new or potentially “dangerous” tasks are a threat to this steady-state.

Back to your snooze button.

When your alarm goes off, and you hit snooze, your brain exhales a sigh of relief. This feels normal. This is what we do every day. 

Your brain likes this state. This is what always happens, it says. 

The next thing you try to do to push yourself? Your brain will insert all sorts of negative self-talk. “I can’t do that.” “I am a failure.” And on and on.

Or, it will raise the internal anxiety level so high that you go into fight or flight mode. You’ll get so anxious that you do little things to quell that anxiety.

For me, it was procrastination through social media. Every time I needed to start working on that big project, my heart rate would rise. My blood pressure would spike.

 And…I’d pick up my phone and commence to scrolling to ease the tension.

Maybe you don’t scroll social. Maybe you get started on the task, but get so wrapped up in making it perfect that it never gets finished. The end result? The work is not done.

Maybe you start a conversation with a coworker to avoid the task at hand.

Maybe you check your email incessantly, or do a whole bunch of unnecessary and unimportant tasks to avoid the massive tasks that would move you toward your goals (insert planning link).

On the flip side of that-if you wake up and keep that small promise to yourselves of getting out of bed when you say you will, your brain recognizes that small change.

“She just did something she said she was going to do. And it wasn’t too hard…hmmm…maybe I can be okay with this whole getting stuff done business she is trying to do!”

Just like that, your confidence builds.

The negative self-talk might not completely go away, but it lessens significantly. 

The promises that you keep to yourself creates goodwill in your brain for the rest of the day. 

You will feel more on top of things, and more confident in your ability to get things done. Your brain won’t sabotage you as much.

Motivation has nothing to do with it.

If you want to get more things done, just start. Doing builds confidence in yourself, and then do more.

Nothing gets you going more than having a small win.

This is why, if you are like me, you write things on your to-do list and check them off EVEN IF YOU’VE ALREADY DONE THEM.

Talk back to me…I know I am not alone! It can’t be just me!!!

I used to think I was being silly when I did this, but this is actually a strategy that is promoted by some gurus who write about how to develop habits and get more done.

Small wins will allow your brain to say “Ok…that wasn’t so bad. I guess we can do this next task.”

It all starts with keeping that first promise to yourself.

What do you think? Are you ready to take control of your day by keeping your first promise to yourself?

Are you ready to join the #nosnoozecrew?

Comment down below! Also, if you wake up early and it makes a difference in your day, I’d love to hear about it!

Peace and Love, 

Kim

HOW TO PLAN YOUR MONTH LIKE A BOSS:7 STEPS TO ACHIEVING AN ORGANIZED AND PRODUCTIVE MONTH IN 2019

HOW TO PLAN YOUR MONTH LIKE A BOSS:7 STEPS TO ACHIEVING AN ORGANIZED AND PRODUCTIVE MONTH IN 2019


Hey, Fam!

We hope that you are excited to plan the last month of the second quarter like a boss! That’s right, we are in the last month of the second quarter of 2019.

CRAZY, ISN’T IT???

If you’ve been around these parts for a while, then you know that we live by the motto that “You can have everything you want in life at the same time, but not on the same day.”

Essentially this means that, rather than trying to balance it all, we evaluate our priorities day by day, decide on what is most important for the day, and execute that, knowing that there is always a tradeoff.

Spending time with our family on one day means we won’t spend time on or our blog or our jobs, and vice versa.

We call this juggling.

In order to effectively juggle all of the different elements of our life, we have to PLAN.

If you want to learn more about how we juggle our hectic schedules with 2 kids, click here.

Why is this important?

Kim: Well, let me share a little bit of my life before 2017, when I started planning effectively.

In summary: I was a HOT MESS.

ot exaggerating.

My routine went something like this: wake up in the morning and try to figure out where I needed to be for the day. I didn’t think ahead and didn’t take into account any of my projects, presentations, or deadlines.

I am a physician, and at the time I worked in a pediatrics clinic. There were many days that I would be driving into work, or at the hospital visiting my mother, or I would decide to “work at home” for the day, and would get a frantic phone call from my clinic asking me where I was.

I didn’t know that I was scheduled to be in the clinic that day. This happened many times a month.

I was perpetually running on E and just trying to make it through each day.

There were several balls to juggle: the problem was, I was not being strategic about which balls to drop on any given day, and EVERYTHING was falling down.

I was tired, burned out, stressed out, and failing miserably.

I went on facebook one day and asked a group of other women physicians what they were doing to stay organized, and that was when I was introduced to the wonderful world of planners and planning.

Planners and planner styles

Kim: I actually consider myself “Planner Babe” (you can see a lot of the planner posts on Instagram) I work with 3 planners currently: a classic Happy Planner (my “catch-all” planner), a bullet journal (or bujo), and my Kate Spade agenda (wallet/business planner).

I go all out: stickers, washi tape, fancy pens.

When my planner is pretty, I am more likely to actually want to look at it, and that alone motivates me to stick to my plans.

I love decorating my planner!

Adrian: I am simple…I use a Passion Planner. No fancy decoration. No stickers. Just a planner and a pen. It doesn’t take much to begin crafting the life that you want.

Kim: No matter your style, these steps will work for you and allow you to have an amazingly productive month.

7 steps to effectively planning your month:

Step 1: PRE-PLAN

Prior to each month, I plan ahead for the coming month using my outlook calendar. Many people use google calendar or ical.

Others utilize their paper planner and sticky notes or a pencil that can be erased. Either one works well-it’s about what makes most sense for you.

The most important thing is that pre-planning is fluid and things change, so I don’t suggest writing in pen so that you can make changes. We both use outlook because appointment requests are sent to us on our job through outlook. There is nothing magical about Outlook, though. Use whatever digital system works for you.

Planners and coffee-two of my FAVES!

Step 2: REFLECTIONS

Ideally, this would occur right before your month begins. Before jumping into the next month, it is often helpful to review any successes and failures from the month prior.

Try not to beat yourself up, especially if you are beginning your planning journey.

Last month is over and done; you will accomplish nothing by feeling down or guilty about what you did not accomplish. Review the prior month OBJECTIVELY.

When reflecting, I typically ask myself these questions:

  1. Biggest wins last month
    1. Write down the one thing that you are most proud of from the last month. Maybe you exercised regularly, stuck to your diet, or completed all of the items on your task list. Celebrate yourself! It’s important to celebrate wins in order to keep yourself motivated.
  2. What was the biggest lesson that you learned? Who or what taught you that lesson?
    1. Get real with yourself. This is about keeping yourself honest and reflecting on the systems, processes, and habits that allowed you to be successful last month, as well as the things that did not work so well. Do you have any regrets? Was there anything that you did that worked well? Did you snooze too long every day? Did you get caught up in minutia and neglect your major goals? Were you disorganized? In order to make a change, you must first get real about what is working for you and what isn’t.
  3. List review
    1. If you had a to-do list last month, review any items that you completed and those haven’t finished. Remove any items that are no longer on your to-do list, either because they were completed or are no longer a priority. We will review this again when we begin the planning process for next month.
  4. Overall goals for the upcoming month
    1. Write a paragraph or two outlining what your overall goal for the upcoming month is. At the end of the month, when you are doing your reflections, what would be the “biggest win” for you? Everything else in your monthly plan should move you toward this goal and this goal only.
  5. Major events/deadlines/tasks for the upcoming month
    1. If you already know of any events or deadlines that you have coming up for the month, list these out so that they are readily on hand when you begin planning your month.
This caption says it all! Never forget your “why”!

STEP 3: FILL OUT APPOINTMENTS/EVENTS/ MEETINGS, ETC. FOR THE MONTH

Let’s get started! Flip to your monthly calendar and begin filling out the page with the appointments that you pre-planned. Do this first so that you can ascertain what your big projects/deadlines/tasks that need to be completed during the month.


If you have children, do not forget to include school holidays, field trips, or deadlines for school projects.  

STEP 4: BRAIN DUMP

Now that you have everything down on paper, it is time to brain dump!

Take a look at the schedule that you wrote, and brain dump all of the things. Think of every possible thing that you need to do, and put it on paper.

Do not try to prioritize or organize: Just get it out!

Chances are, you have a bunch of to-dos floating around in your head, and just getting them on to paper will help you to free up some bandwidth in your mind.

You’d be surprised at how just getting it on paper helps you to feel freer.

STEP 5: ORGANIZE YOUR TO-DO LIST

Have you ever had a long to-do list and just didn’t know where to begin? Having a to-do list without any structure or organization is nothing but an exercise in frustration. If you are anything like me you will simply stare at it without rhyme or reason, get overwhelmed, and end up doing NOTHING.

Trust me on this→ the key is to prioritize your list.

This is a pretty in-depth topic, and I plan on doing an entirely separate blog post on this.

For the time being, you want to separate your tasks into 4 quadrants/priorities:

  1. Urgent/important
  2. Important/not urgent
  3. Urgent/not important
  4. Not urgent/not important
Four Quadrants

This is based on Steven Covey’s “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”

Let’s define these terms (these are my definitions, not the official ones from Covey. Click here if you would like to learn the official definitions).

Urgent: urgent tasks are those that need to be done right away in order to avoid dire consequences.

Important: important tasks are those that help move you toward the life that you want.

Urgent/Important:

Start off with your urgent and important tasks. Look at your calendar for any major deadlines that are important for your family, career, business, etc. These are the tasks that you complete first. You probably procrastinated on these tasks, and now they MUST be done. (Hey, no judgement here! I am a master procrastinator myself). It is helpful for me to include deadlines here, as they help to hold me accountable. An example of an urgent and important task is the keynote address draft that I have due next week (*cough, cough). It’s urgent, as the deadline is approaching, and it is important, as it will further help to establish me as a public speaker, which definitely moves me closer to the life that I want.

Important/Not Urgent:

Ok, peeps. This quadrant is where the magic happens. It is where all of your hopes and dreams reside.

This quadrant is where the keynote address I am delivering in a few weeks resided until last week (*cough).

These are the things that move you toward the life you want.

In this quadrant is the e-book you want to write, the blog you want to start, the exercise routine you have written down but haven’t done, the meeting with your mentor that you want to set up, the course you want to sign up for.

Think about it: No one is beating you over the head to get these tasks done.

But, they are extremely important, as they move you closer to your goals.

These are things that you procrastinate on.

Most people in life procrastinate on these things, and, as a result, most people never truly fulfill their highest purpose.

You don’t want to be one of those people. Schedule these things in your planner, so that you can begin moving toward your dreams.

Helpful tip for Quadrant 2:

These are likely big, daunting tasks. If you see “write e-book” on your  quadrant 2 list, you will likely start getting palpitations every time you see it. It is much more helpful to break down your projects into small tasks.  

So, if your ultimate goal is to compose an e-book, one of the tasks in quadrant 2 for the month could be “the first draft of the book outline”. This is MUCH less daunting and much more doable.

You are more likely to actually complete these tasks when you break them up into bite-sized pieces.

Urgent/Not important:

This quadrant sucks up all of your time, because this is likely the quadrant that involves what other people want you to be doing. (Read that again)

These are the menial tasks, like email, that eat up so much of your time.

You can spend hours on email and feel like you are being productive, however, you are likely just busy and not actually productive.

It’s helpful to limit the amount of time you spend on these areas and to delegate these items if you are able.

Not urgent/not important:

Why are we even doing these things? Think about it. If they are not urgent and not important, what are they? Likely the things that distract you and prevent you from moving into quadrant 2! Think of: facebook, twitter, IG, etcetera, etcetera. Limit these activities to your break times.

STEP 6: TOP 3

WHEW! We are almost done, folks! We now have our tasks prioritized, we have our calendar set, and we are ready to move forward productively in our month! However, I also select my top three items for the month-the non-negotiables that, if I get them done, I will feel that the month was productive.

Here is a pro tip: Don’t just write your top 3 willy-nilly. Look at your quadrants and be strategic.


I like to select two items from quadrant 1 and one item from quadrant 2.

I include quadrant 2 because, again, this is where the magic happens, where my dreams lie, and getting a Q2 item done will make me feel super duper accomplished at the end of the month.

BONUS STEPS:

I select a bible verse/affirmation for the month, and add it to my calendar page. When in doubt, Philippians 4:13 always works well! It is very inspirational to flip to your calendar and see your favorite scripture or quote, as it can give you a boost on days that you lack motivation.

Our favorite bible verse!

YOU’RE DONE!!!

You have now effectively planned your month! Going through these steps should help to alleviate overwhelm and will help you move toward your goals and develop the life that you want.

Let’s address the elephant in the room: these are a lot of steps!

I will admit that it does take some time, especially once you first start. We recommend blocking off 1-2 hours when you first begin planning in order to complete all of the steps.

With time, you will notice it becomes easier and easier. Enjoy the process!

Kim: I love my planning time! It’s my me-time. Not only does it make me feel accomplished, but the process of planning just brings me a certain amount of peace. If I am home, I light a candle, play some music, and settle into my planning. Try it and let me know how it goes!

Please let us know if this guide has been helpful for you! Leave a comment below. If you go through the steps, we would LOVE to see your process! Shoot us an email: contact@productivepurpose.com and show us your planners, or tag @husbandwifedoctorlife on Instagram!

Go forth and be productive!


Peace and Love,

Kim and Adrian

The 5 seconds that changed my life

I was my own worst enemy

From the outside looking in, I am a success.

I am a wife to an amazing husband. I have two gorgeous children-and a boy and a girl at that.

We live in a beautiful community. I completed college, medical school, and trained at arguably the best children’s hospital in the country (shout out to Cincinnati Children’s!).

I have recently lost a significant amount of weight (more on this later, I promise).

I have it all. Seemingly.

Yet, deep down inside, I knew that I wasn’t giving it my all, all the time.

For as long as I have known myself, I have a very bad habit of doing just enough.

Now, my just enough landed me all of the amazing opportunities that I have outlined above, and for that, I thank my God and my family.

However, I lived with the constant realization that I could do So. Much. More.

It started off with big things.

I would procrastinate on assignments in school. I told myself that I “work well under pressure” or that “I only work well with deadlines”.

I would have an idea for something to write or a new idea for a cool new something, and I would put it off. “That’s a silly idea.” “I can’t do that.” “No one would buy that.” “I’ll wait until I learn more about X before I do Y.”

As I progressed in my career I noticed that it was no longer only “big” things I would put off.

Seemingly minute details became increasingly difficult to undertake. Not that the things themselves were necessarily hard.

They actually weren’t hard at all. Sending in paperwork for a new job.

Responding to an email from my boss, completing paperwork tasks on time, setting an out of office reply when I was going on vacation.

These are not hard things at all, but they were things that I learned to put off until the very last minute as a way to avoid the anxiety they caused.

This then morphed into not only not making it to meetings on time but also telling myself that I was being strategically late because everyone in Miami is late and I hate wasting time (there is some truth to this…especially the lateness of my fellow Miami peeps).

But, really, it was just an excuse for me to procrastinate.

It was easy not to be too hard on myself. Honestly, for as long as I can remember, things in our lives have been crazy.

Medical school apart from my hubby, residency with a baby, Adrian’s health scare while I was in residency, fellowship in a new place with Adrian unable to find a job initially (an entire blog post!), me getting pregnant, my mom almost dying and getting sick, Adrian starting a new and amazing job, multiple hospitalizations and rehab stays and eventually my mom’s passing, my cousin dying, and subsequently my mother’s brother dying as well.

Of course I had anxiety!

I was used to doing just enough and justifying it by all of the craziness that I was dealing with on a daily basis.

Can anyone blame me? I certainly didn’t think I had a problem. Life was just crazy and things were stressful. Right?

Wrong.

I always knew. I always knew that, deep down inside, I was using these things as justification for my terrible self-sabotaging habits.

Deep down I was scared for peace.

Because, when things calm down and hectic tumult evolves into the daily grind of a normal life, I knew that I would crumble if I did not tackle the habits that lead to self-sabotage in my life.

I didn’t know how to do anything other than procrastinating and self-sabotage.

The thought of being on top of my day-to-day tasks gave me major anxiety.

Working with my therapist helped me to realize that for some reason I didn’t believe that I deserved to not be scrambling at the last minute.

I didn’t know how to not be in chaos, so I was creating chaos for myself in every missed e-mail, in every missed deadline, in every pre-meeting scramble.

Every time I walked in late and rushed to submit an item before a deadline, I was reinforcing my flawed internal dialogue: “That’s the way it is in my life—things are just crazy.”

But things were no longer crazy, and I had no more excuses. Life was peaceful, or at least it was no longer insane. So what was my problem?

https://productivepurpose.com/2018/06/17/you-probably-need-a-therapist/ I cannot overstate the importance of therapy in figuring out the mental blocks that I had to living the life that I wanted.

I did lots of emotional work that included prayer and meditation. I remember the morning that I committed to change.

I told myself that I am worthy of so much more, not because of anything that I have done, but because I am a child of God.

Whew.

I truly, for the first time, felt free of the weight of uncertainty and self-sabotage. I had a renewed energy drive and focus to Get. Stuff. Done.

So, what did I do first? NOTHING.

A whole lot of nothing.

Why?

Because I didn’t have the TOOLS that I needed to get anything done.

I made a commitment to change but had no idea what the next step was.

When you’ve done something your entire life it is possible to summon the courage and conviction to change, but unless you have concrete steps to take, you will end up falling back into your old ways.

So here, I was with a ton of energy and determination, but feeling totally lost and confused as to what I should do next.

So, as the creature of habit that I am, I turned to the one place that I go to when I can’t figure out what to do next.

YouTube.

When I turned it on, one of the suggested videos was something from Amy Landino.

I had just started watching Amy a few months before and felt that her tips for productivity and being an overall girl boss resonated with me.

So, I clicked on her video, hoping that I would gain inspiration on what to do to shake my old ways. I watched a few of her videos in the background as I began preparing dinner in the kitchen. After a while, a video popped up that piqued my interest.

Amy was going to be talking to Mel Robbins.

Now, I knew I should know who Mel was, but I had no clue. Amy solidified that when she exclaimed how EVERYONE was now reading Mel Robbins” 5 Second Rule book. Having always been a book worm, I ventured over to watch the video.

And that’s where my life changed.

OK, I know how dramatic that sounds, but I cannot understate the impact that learning about Mel’s 5-second rule had on my life. It has truly been a game-changer.

Mel and Amy discussed the rule, and then I watched Mel’s Ted Talk.

Interestingly the 5-second rule is wedged in toward the end of the video, but what compelled me was Mel’s story.

I felt that she truly had been in a place that I was trying to crawl myself out of.

Stuck, mired by life’s worries, knowing that you need to change what you do in order to change where you are, but not knowing how to do it or where to begin.

Could it be that I was receiving the answer to my prayer at that very moment?

I truly believe so.

After watching a few more of her videos, I decided to put the 5-second rule into practice with something I had been procrastinating on for weeks—calling my therapist.

See, I missed my last appointment, and I had been avoiding calling her because she called me a few times and I didn’t call back.

STUCK.

So, I took a deep breath and did exactly what Mel taught me to do moments before.

5…4…3…2…1…

Before I even had a chance to think, I was on the phone with my therapist.

Success!

Just as I knew she would be, she was pleasant and kind.

And, just as I always do, I immediately thought to myself “Why did I wait so long to call? That wasn’t hard at all!!!” It’s never truly hard, but I get stuck anyway.

GOT stuck.

I tried to figure out the best and fastest way to get my hands on her book. I knew that if I purchased it from amazon, I could get it in 2 days, but I needed this book NOW. So, I figured out how to download the book from Audible so that I could listen immediately.

(Talk about stuck-I had an audible membership for at least a year at that point, and that was the first book I ever downloaded and listened to!)

I did several other things that I was dreading that day after counting from 5 to 1: I logged in to my student loan account and updated the amount I owed for my records, as well as confirmed my loan forgiveness (this was a HUGE undertaking! I had been avoiding that for MONTHS); I checked some old emails and responded to them; I started working on one of my many procrastinated projects; I PICKED UP THE PHONE WHEN SOMEONE CALLED

(Y’all. Being an  introvert AND a procrastinator with high-functioning anxiety truly made my voicemail inbox a place where messages went to DIE.).

I now hold the title of a recovering self-sabotager (Hello, my name is Kim…).

It is a daily battle and work in progress, although I will say that it seems to be getting easier.

I am making new habits and replacing old ones.

I am getting things done and having the daily courage to make little steps toward my goals so that I can have the life that I know I deserve.

Check out Mel Robbins’ book “The 5-second rule” for yourself! If you find it helpful, I would love if you would share your experience below or email me at productivepurpose.com.

Peace and Love,

Kim

The Ultimate Work-Life Juggle

Adrian: Father’s Day wasn’t supposed to go like this.

Kim: Ok, let me backtrack. Two Sundays ago was Father’s Day! The newborn babies in Miami didn’t seem to care, though, which meant that I was scheduled to work in the newborn nursery that day. Adrian and I believe that the day of each parent should be celebrated, at the very least, with decreased or no parental duties. I was feeling very guilty that I had to work. To make matters worse, I had been on service the entire week, so Adrian had been on daddy duty almost exclusively. I made the decision to get a babysitter for 4 hours to give Adrian a break. Adrian loves spending time at the beach, so I envisioned him taking a break to splash in the waves while I am rounding on the babies.

Adrian: I sincerely appreciate Kim’s thoughtfulness in hiring the babysitter. I do, in fact, love to spend time at the beach. Having grown up in Jamaica, being at the beach is like being home. For some reason, however, I view my birthday as a day to have some alone time to reflect on my life and goals, whereas I view Father’s Day as a day to be with my family. It brings me great joy to execute my fatherly duties on “my day”, so I decided to take my son to the beach with me while the baby stayed home with the sitter. “First, though, we went to our favorite breakfast spot in our city! I was enjoying our day but missing my girls. Israel and I arrived at the beach in the late morning hours. I was able to snag a parking space (score!), and paid a small fortune for beach chairs and an umbrella. However, once our time with the babysitter was about to expire, I realized that I needed more time at the beach—despite the seaweed invasion.

Kim: So, he called me. I was finally done with rounding and was about to work on a few other items on my to-do list so that when I got home I could be fully present. Adrian said we should all return to the beach as a family. Hey, it’s his day so I obliged him, even if I had NO BATHING SUIT on me, no towel, no shoes…basically I was totally unprepared. Adrian suggested that I go pick up a bathing suit. I decided to stop by Ross (shout out to Ross!). I picked up a suit and a towel. Meanwhile…

Adrian: Meanwhile, I went back home, picked up Selah (right before naptime…was that a good idea?), and drove back to the beach. As I drove, I realized that I didn’t bring a change of clothes for myself, Israel or Selah…I just grabbed their swim suits and left. I usually think that I don’t fit the “typical Dad” stereotype, but this was a typical sitcom dad moment. What can I say? Kim and I just have different packing skills. I did remember snacks, though. As long as they’re well fed, I’m good. After all, in sunny SoFlo, wet clothes will dry at some point.

Kim: At this point, Adrian was legit calling me q2 minutes (that’s every 2 minutes for my non-medical peepsJ). He was driving around and having difficulty finding parking. I was trying to negotiate whether or not I had time to grab a snack.

Adrian: Kim knows that not being able to find parking is my kryptonite. I need to work on this, but I get frustrated very easily and get very snippy when parking is limited and I have to drive around a lot. By this time, Selah was sleeping and Israel was eating pizza that I purchased earlier. The parking attendant told me that I could potentially park at the nearby hotel with valet. Nice! WRONG. The valet attendant said I needed to be a hotel guest.

Kim: I am still receiving q2 min phone calls at this point.

Adrian: Then, SELAH THROWS UP.

Kim: And he calls me again.

Adrian: I pull over and clean her up with baby wipes and the only towel I had. Still, I couldn’t find a parking space. I call Kim (again) and told her I might just take the kids home. I was very disappointed at this point.

Kim: I leave Ross with my purchases, because I didn’t get the 7th call (!) until I
had already checked out. So, now I had $30 worth of beach gear for no reason, and I am worried about my daughter. I am driving home when I get the 8th call. We are back on for the beach! Huh?

Adrian: I changed my mind. Why not just throw caution to the wind and go to the beach? I have no change of clothes anyway, and Kim just bought a bathing suit. I didn’t want to disappoint her, since she left work early because of me. Selah was now very happy—singing, clapping, throwing tantrums, bossing us around—and I think the vomiting was due to congestion, as her breathing sounded clearer now. Off to the beach we go!

Kim: By this time, I am mostly going with the flow ONLY because it’s Father’s Day. On a regular Sunday I would have screamed “Make up your mind!” So, now I am driving to the beach. I receive about 5 more calls, because we are now switching beaches due to the parking situation. This meant forfeiting our beach chairs and umbrella that Adrian had rented for several more hours; but again, I am just going with the flow at this point!

Adrian: The beach was great! We had a blast. We were totally unprepared, but we were all together. I had no towels, because I used the one I brought to clean up vomit. Well, Kim had a towel that she just purchased, so there is that. We splashed around, ate slightly sandy pizza (because we had nothing to spread on the ground), and generally had a great time.

Kim: We got home around 8:00 PM after picking up some food for dinner. Everyone showered before we ate so we wouldn’t track sand all over the house. We got the kids ready and then got ready for bed as well. Before we went to sleep, Adrian’s voice changed a bit and he seemed a bit short of breath. Let’s just say this resulted in a 911 call, an ambulance ride, me calling my best friend to stay with my kids, and a few days in the hospital.

Adrian: I am so thankful for Kim and her love and diligence. She is, indeed, a super mom. She made many sacrifices that week as she juggled work and home while being my personal physician and patient advocate—and she made it look so easy. Although she had to cancel a presentation the morning I was admitted, she still managed to get some work done while being at my bedside; and actually, that motivated me to put in a couple hours of work as well, yes, right there in the hospital. Of course, I didn’t have to, but I really missed work and needed to keep my mind engaged: I love my job that much. Thankfully, all turned out well. I’m feeling great, and I now have another testimony of divine healing and deliverance.

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-Adrian and Kim